On May 16, 2009, I married a wonderful man, L. We met in June of 2006, and in November of 2007 we moved in together. We are both in our 60’s with previous long term marriages; mine ended in divorce while L’s first wife died after a long illness.
I had never dated a widower before and although I’d had a lot of experience with extended families and “exes” of one type or another, I was totally unprepared for the journey we embarked upon when we first got together; not a lot has been written about dating and/or marrying a widower.
I have met a number of women over the past several years who are in this new realm and find themselves drowning in a sea of emotions with no lifeline in sight. I’m no lifeline, but I’m here to tell you that if you are both committed to making it work, you can get through the roughest spots and move on to a wonderful relationship that’s more grounded in the present than the past.
Comments are welcome and you can feel free to share your own experiences if you like. I’m still navigating the occasional choppy sea and am always happy to hear how others are finding their way.
